Relationship
& Sex CounseLLing in Berlin

Explore Your Sexuality and the Relationship to Yourself and Others with Openness and Understanding

ABOUT MY WORK AS A SEX COUNSELLOR

My work is dedicated to exploring the intersection of love and sexuality — from the relationship we have with our bodies, to the way we experience intimacy and connect with others. To understand how relationships evolve, why passion dies, why we cheat. To delve into desire, heartbreak, pain, and the beautiful intensity that comes with human connection.

Storytelling forms an integral part of counselling and healing. As a sex and relationship counsellor, I’m here to listen to your story; to help you navigate the sensitive and challenging obstacles that come with love and sex so that you may process your experiences and find new levels of understanding. With this intention, I set out to create my practice — a safe space where individuals and couples can bring to light those truths we are too afraid to talk about. A place where we can learn about our sexuality, foster self-love, love for our bodies and partner(s). Perhaps most importantly, a place where we can cultivate the relationship we have with ourselves, and in the process, use our shared experiences — our stories — as a catalyst for positive change.

COMMON CHALLENGES
EXPLORED IN RELATIONSHIP & SEX COUNSELlING

+ Rekindling low desire in long-term relationships.

+ Working through infidelity, rebuilding trust and fostering erotic empathy as a couple.

+ Understanding the meaning and motives behind an affair.

+ Unveiling deeper insights into your own identity and the dynamics of your relationships.

+ Reclaiming your sexuality and healing from sexual trauma.

+ Exploring consensual non-monogamy.

+ Understanding your sexual orientation–who you love, who you fall in love with, and what turns you on.

+ Exploring erotic possibilities as a transitioning or transgender person.

+ Exploring kink and BDSM as an individual and/or as a couple.

+ Overcoming sexual difficulties around arousal, vaginal pain, erectile dysfunction and/or premature ejaculation.

+ Working through out of control compulsive sexual behaviour (formerly referred to as sex addiction).

SESSIONS

Central to my work is to create a safe space for individuals to share their stories; stories we carry with us throughout our lives that influence our thoughts, decisions and behaviours. By slowly giving these narratives the space they need, we begin to understand how they have shaped us and how we may be re-enacting patterns and scripts from our childhood or past experiences as a coping or protection mechanism.

The Sexuality Piece: As part of our sessions, we will explore your sexuality through a biopsychosocial lens. From reviewing medical factors that may be leading to sexual difficulties, to understanding what is happening in your autonomic nervous system when there’s pressure to perform and anxiety kicks in, to openly discussing your sexual fantasies and unpacking your cultural background and the family dynamics you grew up in, my work is integrative and judgement-free. Whether you want to free yourself from feelings of shame, explore your sexuality or deepen the connection with your partner, I am here to support you on your journey.

The Relational Piece: Relationships have the potential of going through a series of developmental stages. Challenges arise when either one, or both partners aren’t able to progress and reach an impasse. Oftentimes we perceive our partners as the problem, when in fact what we are experiencing is a struggle for psychological growth and wholeness. Using the Developmental Model of Couple’s Counselling as our framework, our sessions will focus on helping you and your partner differentiate so that you may lean into your most authentic selves and reframe problems as an opportunity for growth and intimacy.

  • Alexandra Suarez - Office in Mitte

    A Quiet Space To Reflect & Reconnect

  • TESTIMONIALS

    ‘‘Our experience with Alex has been nothing short of transformative. She has a gift for creating a safe and non-judgmental space where my partner and I could explore new dimensions of our relationship. Her guidance and expertise helped us discover new techniques and approaches to intimacy that enabled us to develop a deeper and more fulfilling connection while also exploring new realms of our sexuality.’’

  • ‘‘When I first started working with Alex, I was at an impasse in my relationship and still unconsciously under the impression that the pleasure of sex was reserved for men. With gentleness, patience, and honesty, Alex encouraged me to question a lot of the long-held beliefs I had over my sexuality as a cis-woman. Her warm personality and professionalism fostered the ideal environment for me to practice pleasure and lean into myself as a sexual, sensual being.

    I've grown immensely from the conversations and exercises during our sessions. Not only am I better able to identify and act on my own pleasure, but also feel more confident in asking for what I want and establishing clear, non-negotiable boundaries in sex and beyond. I am deeply grateful to Alex for sharing her knowledge and holding the space necessary for this growth.’’

  • ‘‘Alex's warm and friendly approach made us feel comfortable and safe to share our most intimate concerns. She was compassionate and empathetic towards our issues and worked with us to develop strategies to improve our relationship. Thanks to her guidance, my partner and I have a better understanding of each other's needs and are more committed to building a healthy and fulfilling relationship. We would highly recommend Alex to anyone seeking a skilled and compassionate counselor.’’

  • ‘‘In couples counselling with Alexandra I felt very safe and supported and started to understand why I was struggling in my intimate relationship. Alexandra helped me see through the symptoms — mainly showing up through a loss for words and feelings of numbness in my body. I started to feel and experience my body slowly again by breathing and paying attention to my body and what it was voicing in our sessions.

    When I went through the very painful break up phase, Alexandra was by my side supporting me to find a way through. She gave me so much help by giving me space for my grief and also showing me many ways of healing my body and broken heart. I will always be grateful for having had the chance to work with a person so empathetic, kind and warm hearted, who truly sees the other person and shares her gift of healing.’’

  • ‘‘My girlfriend and I were looking for guidance in our relationship and we found it in Alex. She helped us understand each other better and taught us new communication skills that have greatly improved our relationship. She was always patient, understanding, and supportive, and we could not have made the progress we did without her guidance.’’

  • ‘‘I'm very grateful for the sessions I've had with Alexandra. She has a warmth that I think would put anyone at ease, and her care and compassion for others are so evident. At the same time, she asks careful, sometimes challenging questions that help me to deepen my understanding of myself and of the dynamics I have with other people. I appreciate her curiosity, patience, and expertise.’’

  • ‘‘Working with Alex has been an incredible journey, and I truly appreciate her guidance and encouragement. The insights we've gained into my coping mechanisms have been eye-opening and have given me the clarity needed to continue my path of healing.’’

  • ‘‘Alex helped us navigate our relationship into new positive pathways and pedagogically guided us through topics that were a bit tough and challenging at times. Her way of listening and her space made us feel super safe and able to open up fully.’’

Qualifications & Training

Alexandra Suarez - Sex Counselor in Berlin

+ Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Human Sexuality, SDSU, California, 2007 - 2010

+ Postgraduate Diploma in International Public Health, Charité Universitätsmedizin Berlin, Germany, 2016 - 2017

+ Sex Counselling Certification, Modern Sex Therapy Institute, Florida, 2021 - 2023

+ Graduate of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy Training under Ellyn Bader Ph.D., The Couples Institute, California 2023 - 2024

+ Sex Educator Training, SDSU Health Services, California, 2010

+ Sexual and Reproductive Health Training, Planned Parenthood Federation of America, California, 2011 - 2013

+ Sexual Attitude Reassessment (SAR) Training, 2021

+ Member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), 2022 - Present

frequently asked questions


Which modality do you use in your work?

I follow the PLISSIT model in the field of Sexology. My approach to counselling is integrative, client-centred and influenced by Attachment Theory and the Developmental Model of Couple’s Counselling.


What is the recommended frequency?

Whether you are interested in sessions as an individual or as a couple, you decide the rhythm and frequency in which we meet. For this type of work to be the most effective, however, it is recommended that couples have sessions every two weeks. This frequency will give you enough time to reflect and integrate what has been brought up in our sessions whilst ensuring we address deep rooted issues, break negative patterns and improve the communication in your relationship.


HOW MUCH DOES IT COST?

For a counselling session of 60min: €80 for individuals
For a counselling session of 75 min: €130 for couples
For a counselling session of 90 min: €150 for couples

If you are a student or your financial situation is a barrier to book a session, please don’t hesitate to reach out so we can find a solution.


WHAT IS YOUR CANCELLATION POLICY?

No-shows and/or cancellations made less than 48 hours before the appointment will be charged according to the session booked.


How is SEX counselling different from WORKING WITH A CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST?

While a clinical psychologist is able to treat a complex range of mental health conditions such as depression, eating disorders, PTSD, OCD etc. and is able to provide a diagnosis, my type of work focuses on one area of expertise.  As a certified sex and relationship counsellor, my work is dedicated to helping clients resolve concerns through psychosexual education, recognising behaviours stemming from an insecure attachment style, improving communication skills and suggesting specific exercises focusing on sexual expression. Following the PLISSIT model of Sexology, I am trained to identify situations that require intensive psychotherapy so that I can make appropriate referrals in cases that are complicated by the coexistence of a mental health condition, complex life issues which may include intimate partner violence and/or substance abuse, or by interpersonal or intrapersonal conflict. I adhere to the AASECT code of conduct.


WHERE IS YOUR OFFICE?

Berlin, Mitte